I know we usually feature a Model Icon on Plusforus.com but this month we decided to go a different route and showcase a mother named Pamela and her 16 year old daughter Kassandra. Both women are natural beauties, curvy, confident and willing to share their experiences with you. This is a chance for all of us to get a real heartfelt look into two different mindsets, from young to adult in regards to positive self image and hopefully show that life does get better no matter how hard things seem right now.
Starting from a young age I have always had the mindset that I was inferior to others because of my appearance, I was constantly made fun of for my weight, my height, and even because the color of my skin was a few shades darker than the others. Now as I look back on the pain I endured even though I am a much stronger person now then I was then, a lot of damage has been done. I don’t see myself as beautiful or out of the ordinary. Lately as I made a decision to change my style, so that I could express my fun personality through the clothes I wear, when it comes to my outfits I don’t hold back on any ideas I have in mind. It makes me feel good about myself and it has given me a big sense of confidence. Now as I get older I realize even though I might not be “skinny” nor have a perfect body I am still me. I have to accept the fact that I am ALWAYS going to be thick. I am not “lazy” as many people who haven’t even gotten to get to know me believe. I play basketball from about 12 noon into the evening at least five times a week, I lead a active lifestyle and my main goal in my life is to be healthy NOT skinny.
I am starting to embrace my curves because now I see there are some girls that wish they had them. My main inspiration in my life is happiness. My motto is to always find happiness in the simplest things, and that I do. I have always tried to keep myself on a positive road because I have been exposed to the results of being on a negative one.
My philosophy is “Even though the little things and small moments might not seem so important now; but if one day you didn’t have them, a big part of who you are will be lost.
My inspirations are my girls. Every day they inspire me to be successful at everything I do so that I can set an example of what strong women they can be and achieve in life. They encourage me to not only put my best foot forward but to use all my strengths, physical and mental, to tackle any obstacle that may be set upon me. They are what keep me focused and positive even in the worse circumstances. They give me hope on my darkest of days and on my better days, motivate me to achieve all my aspirations.
From my teen years thru my twenties I was insecure about my 6 foot 1 full figured body. Growing up as a teen through the 80s’ and 90’s, it was very hard to find stylish clothes. Shortly after I met my husband, he bought me a sewing machine and I began to sew all my clothes. Although my husband loved my full figured physique it wasn’t till my 30’s I learned to love and embrace my “Rubenesque” shape. Now at 40, I’ve learned to love my body and frame and accept that I will always be big no matter what. I just want to be healthy so I can be here for my girls and watch them grow in to successful women.
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